I saw this article on polyamory from Joe Perez. 

I see where he is going with the article, but I do have some disagreements about the current state of sexuality, and what an integral sexuality may look like. 

My disagreements come down to a few points.   Before I come to the disagreements, though, I should acknowledge the areas of agreement:

a.  Historically, the most frequent sexual arrangement has been polygamy, where men had multiple wives, and wives - well, had no options.
b. The "romantic monogamous couple", in its idealized form, is somewhat a product of the last three hundred years (but in some ways, not, as well.)
c. There is no pre-existing moral arbiter saying that polyamorous relationships are against God (no matter how much I have this as a built-in view of how it should be), similar to the fact that there is no pre-existing moral arbiter that homosexuality is against God (and my built-in view is that there is that my own conventional moral rules apply equally to both types of relationships.  I'm the type of guy that will start pestering my gay friends who aren't married, but have been together for awhile, "Isn't it time for you guys to tie the knot?  Where's your commitment to each other, in the eyes of each other, your community and your families?").


However -

1. Even though in a comment later, Joe does mention that all types of relationship can be pre, post, and simple conventional, there is in the post itself, a subtle equating with polyamory with "post-conventional".  His comment later is more in line with my opinion. Any relationship depending on the consciousness of the people involved, can be in any of the states.
2.  My own opinion is that people are built a certain way.  Most as straight monogamous, some as gay, some as polyamorous.  But some people make the mistake of "glorifying" their particular preference as "higher" than others.  No, it's just the way your biology is built.  It is what it is, and bring higher consciousness to the biology and preferences that God has given you.

3. I hate to get prosaic but - "what about the kids?".  EVERY SINGLE STUDY that has been done regarding children show that split-ups of the parents - a non-stable home - as having profound emotional effects, lasting into adulthood, of less success, and less happiness. Of course, that is the bell curve.  Everyone actually reading this article (integrally informed, smart, etc) is already above the average of the bell curve, so it doesn't apply to YOUR kids, in this instance.  But the studies still hold generally.

And the truth is that non-conventional relationships - relationships of three, relationships that are a stable two but "open" for one of the couple or both of the couple to have temporary partners, etc - split up a lot.  And the couples I know (homosexual or heterosexual) that DON'T have "seeing other people" as an option in the relationship, split up a lot less than homosexual or heterosexual couples that do have this as an option.  And yes, there are exceptions, of course.  I know one threesome couple who have been together 25 years, with three kids.  But these ARE exceptions.

Life is hard, and relationships are as well.  Adding the additional wrinkle of more people, and the jealousy, the emotional dynamics, etc - well, this often can send a working relationship over the edge.

4. Legal aspects.  It would be hard to define legally the various rights, and responsibilities to polyamory, that wouldn't apply equally to polygamy - and that's something that I don't want to see happen.  Property, visitations, etc, etc - having a couple only rule, applied universally, has to be the continuing mode.

However, if:

a. No kids are involved.
b. All people involved are pretty stable, emotionally and financially
c. You are built for polyamory (what, 1 to 5% of the population?  Don't think there are accurate or reliable figures.)
d. Or, you are fairly young, and figuring out what you are -

Then - have a party! 

From my own experiences in my 20's, I can attest that by experimenting with polyamory, is VERY educational, on an emotional level.  You get very attuned to subtleties of energy, of desire, of subconscious attitudes of possession, of deeper areas of vulnerability - very quickly.

But of course, if you aren't built for that (and I really am not), it's also incredibly painful, though educational!

That's my own opinion, at any rate.