I've been incredibly remiss in not mentioning the Social Anxiety Blog that has been going, with quite a lot of "integral" bloggers, that I've been reading for awhile - in fact, some of the best!

(I was reminded of this by Umguy)

So here is the Anxious Living site -  and here are a couple of good posts -

A post on self-help in general.

A post to an online assessment - this also leads to a number of other assessments you can take.

I took this assessment pointed to - and I don't seem to suffer from that this social phobia, at least according to the assessment.  Though I have tremendous sympathy, as I also have an extremely shy side to me.

I think there is something to the fact that a lot of people are intellectual, shy, and a bit introverted, and ONLINE when it comes to those interested in Ken Wilber's works.

In the past, I have mainly been shy around women I'd like to ask out on a date, and then in social situations where I feel out of place.  (Of course, in social situations where I feel comfortable, TRY shutting me up!)

The site engages other universal questions - the nature of self-improvement, the nature of change, the nature of acceptance, versus self-growth and self-improvement.   So give it a look.

Graham has been posting a lot of good articles later, and this one on hypnosis and communication is also good.

Points -

Communicate to produce an outcome for the listener.

My addition to that would be a communication isn't about YOU, it's about the other person - even though the CONTENT of the communication is about what you want to communicate - the communication itself is about the other person (or room full of people, depending on the case).

As far as NLP itself - which I assume Graham is going to expand on - NLP seems to have more research successes behind it, in terms of behaviour change, than others.  A good "track record", so to speak. 

But for myself, I've experimented with NLP - gone over a period of time to two different therapists (30 sessions between the two) - and I personally was completely unreceptive.  My whole being rebelled, for whatever reason - still don't know why.